What would that level of trust feel like? To know that every decision, every step of your journey was all part of your highest good?
Would you be able to stop beating yourself up about things? Would you be able to stop looking at yourself like a failure?
I see so many posts about holding yourself accountable and they usually have some sort of message about calling yourself out on your own bullshit and admitting your toxic traits. Yeah, of course you want to be aware of these things, especially so you don’t continue a cycle of hurting yourself and others.
By “calling yourself out” and “admitting” you’re further shaming yourself, further hurting yourself, keeping yourself even further away from what you want for yourself..
What if those toxic traits were really things that helped you survive situations? What if the bullshit helped you cope and become more resilient.
It might no longer serve you, but that doesn’t mean that it was all bad. It apparently served you at some point or you would’ve chosen something different.
What does it feel like to extend compassion to those parts of yourself? To recognize that you did your best. More than likely, those toxic traits were ways you adapted in your childhood, they were how you responded to your environment.
Maybe you learned to love in a way that wasn’t healthy. What were you supposed to do as a child? Go against the way your parents were raising you? If you were in a toxic situation, what good would that have done?
Nevermind the fact that you were a child, you couldn’t have made the changes you needed anyway.
So you adapted.
You became strong.
You learned how to overcome and build up a persona that served you at the time, it helped keep you safe. It helped you.
And, if you’re reading this, it helped get you to a point where you realize you want and deserve more. Just by existing, you are worthy. If there’s a nudge or dream in your heart, what you see is yours.
You might have to “cut through some bullshit”, but what if cutting through it is facing it gently, getting down on its level, holding its hand and saying thank you.
Two little words that hold so much power.
Two words that can transform the energy of a situation in an instant, especially when said genuinely.
Instead of being a victim to your experiences, this shifts the energy into something productive. Something you learned from and grew from. And probably continue to grow from!
How does that feel?
The next time you’re beating yourself up for something you did or the way you reacted, take a step back and ask where that action came from. Give yourself space to hear the answer and acknowledge it.
You can give yourself this gift every single day.
If a parent wasn’t there for you as a child, be that gift to yourself. Show up consistently, lovingly, and with a deep understanding.
This is how the inner child is healed and soothed and then how you as an adult begin to feel more supported and can take more control of your life as the creator of everything you want to do, be, and have.
That’s all inside of you! You can access it today, right now, in this moment!